Ever dated a sports fanatic? Can't miss a game of hockey/ football/ euro football/ lacrosse/ baseball /basket ball/ tennis/ golf/ televised ping pong/ basically any game with a ball involved to save his life? The guy knows every sport and knows every stat that goes along with it - and he feels it important to share this information with you even though you could really care less how many runs this guy had in 2005.
But, my friends, this is the trick! This is the way to keep things status quot. I once was in a relationship with a guy just like that. As if it wasn't enough that I was missing watching Friends (the episode where they have Thanks Giving and Chandler has to be in box too. I mean that's a classic!), now I have to sit here and watch this damn sport and hear my man spit off every stat he can think of in 15 minutes or less!
As annoyed and un-entertained as I was, I must say that there is something undeniably cute about a man and his sports. Maybe because I grew up around loving brothers who obsessed over football, basket ball, baseball and hockey; or maybe because I do get pleasure from seeing others in their happiest moments, I just kinda love the stats guy.
They seem like kids a little, don't they? And all you can think is "this is a pain in the ass, but look how cutely excited he is!" And so, you fake it. You ask questions about number 34 and say stuff like "who chooses the numbers for them?" even though the answer means less than nothing to you. You might even see that after a while, it begins to grow on you and you become a sports fan yourself!
This rule applies to men too. In fact, it might be the key to any relationship (don't quote me on that). Compromising makes for a happy couple. And sometimes, it means faking it. Your guy might really not like to wander aimlessly from store to store touching fabrics and holding things up to your body to envision if that top is the right top for you - but he had better fake it!
Faking it when it comes to things that your partner likes to do can be a great way to better get to know the person you are with. It can also lead to new interests for yourself. Oddly enough, I have found, it makes for a better sex life too. Some how when one person feels that the other is genuinely interested in their own life, they become more sexually attracted to that person and reach a new level of comfort with them. This makes it a lot easier to get her to get on top a little (and who doesn't like to enjoy that?)!
So don't be afraid to fake it a little ;)
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