Cheaters

It was disclosed to me that a person I know (who has been in a long term relationship for 2+ years) has been cheating on their partner. This, to me, is the lowest of the low. The most disgusting thing a person can ever do to the person they love.

I have always prided myself on honesty and reliability and in my mind cheating is what people do when they hate themselves so much that they do not know how else to express it but to hurt those around them who are seemingly hurting them in the first place.

A while back, a friend who is also in a long term relationship confess that they don't believe there is such a thing as a relationship where no one cheats (emotionally, with a kiss, or more, but something). I think this is untrue to the core! I have been in many committed relationships and never at any point did I ever let someone else touch me, kiss me or stick their penis in or around me.

I have never smoked a cigarette and I have never cheated. I never plan on doing either one of these things in my life time. And I would hope the man I choose for myself would feel the same way!

What do you do when you are on the receiving end of this? When you hear the rumor that the love of your life has been dipping his stick where it don't belong? That your wife has been on her knees when she was "out of town on business" - and not to scrub the floors!

To me, the answer is simple - run! There are many people who disagree and say that it was a one time thing and that it wont happen again, but I think that it is rare that a person who is feeling disconnected from their partner will suddenly feel more connected after experiencing something else. Particularly if the sex was good. Or if they felt good in the moment about it.

I believe that in many cases the remorse is genuine. There is a feeling of guilt and a painful understanding of what the innocent bi-stander might be feeling. But that doesn't mean that the issues that were there in the first place have been solved. And as the saying goes "Once a cheater, always a cheater."

Beware my friends, of those who cheat. Run away. Run fast. Don't look back and just keep moving. Your heart will thank you later